What is one thing a guy can do right now to increase his attractiveness to women?
First of all, get in touch with your real passions in life. There is no single thing that I have found that has had such a drastic effect as really getting in touch with what gets me fired up about LIFE. And let me assure you guys out there that are thinking: "Women are my passion!" NO. Women are not a true passion. They are an outlet of your sexual drive, but not your TRUE passion.
(And when women find a guy that's just into women, or appears to be, he trips their radar in all sorts of bad ways. She knows that this guy is not a good bet for her evolutionary success.)
When you find the things that get you excited about life - like your hobbies and your goals and your relationships in general - you will pay less attention to women for your fulfillment, which ironically makes you more attractive to them.
So, that being said, guys still want to be more successful with women along the way, so we can do that, too. Here's a way you can use this right now:
Right now, take out a piece of paper and make a list of all the things that really get you fired up about life. Detail them in terms of their sensory experience. If you like snowboarding (as I do), then you might write something like: Snowboarding - the sense of wind and biting air on my face, the relentless rush of speed down the mountain, the moments of catching air and feeling your heart stop in your chest, etc.
The more sensory description you can put into it the better. Then, memorize this and talk about it when you're with a woman. I guarantee you this will work better than almost any "script" or fake routine you can find out there. Why? Because it's genuine and YOURS.
Also, the most potent and immediate thing you can do with a woman to generate attraction is to be FUN.
If you're too serious and too focused on what you're trying to get, you can't be fun. And when you create the frame of giving her fun and excitement, you will also be focused on the GIVING.
Make FUN your focus, and you'll start seeing a radical difference in your results.
What was one of your biggest A-HA! moments in learning about attraction and social dynamics?
I remember I was reading a book that talked about the fact that relationships between people are not logical. As much as we want things to be the way they SHOULD be - like everyone treating everyone fairly, no prejudice, etc. - it isn't this way. We don't relate in any logical ways. And if you fight this reality, you'll always be crying about life not being "fair" to you.
Then I realized that it didn't really matter what *I* wanted. I could want a woman to like me and do everything I could to impress her. If she wasn't attracted to me, it wouldn't change anything. You can't force someone to like you or desire you. Plain and simple.
Unless I can see through a woman's eyes and see what it is that makes her interested and attracted, I could push forever and never get her interested in me. So I switched my point of view.
Ask yourself this question: What matters more to the woman you're interested in - what YOU want, or what SHE wants?
Then it all came down to a matter of one more question - What can I do to influence others that gets results? AND does it so that we BOTH win?
The answer to that question is what I teach guys. Because that's the ethically correct way, and the way that gets me what I want at the same time. Win-Win.
What is one of the craziest experiences you have had during your time as a dating guru?
Well, when I had finally started to get the hang of how to handle social interactions with women where I was getting a lot of good results, I remember I once had a weekend where I was meeting 6 different women in two days. I thought that was really cool - complicated, but very cool. I finally had that sense of "arriving," you know? Where my hard work had finally gotten me to a turning point in my life.
Since then, I've had up and down times, but I've never felt like I would ever be "alone" or wanting for female companionship. I always feel like I'm within a few minutes of meeting a woman, whether that's on the street, or online, or whatever. I got past my scarcity mindset, and now life truly feels abundant. And not just with women.
Now I spend my time helping other guys get to that same place in their lives.
(I've been sworn to secrecy about some of the other crazy times, like waking up in the back of a truck full of band equipment... but that's another story...)
What is it about "Dating Dynamics" that you feel differs from the competition?
I teach a holistic approach to dating. I don't JUST teach guys how to be attractive to QUALITY women - and I teach them how to attract friends, success, money, and a balanced peaceful lifestyle. I teach guys the BIG picture of how success with women translates to the rest of their lives - and how to do it with honor and integrity.
Guys get massive results from what I teach because I'm not giving you an imaginary magic pill or magic bullet. There is none, and I'm sure there's quite a few guys reading this that have bought some program in the hopes that it would be.
I give guys lasting and deeply fulfilling success in their dating - and in the rest of their life, too.
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