How do you feel about natural, improvised conversations vs. canned
scripted material in meeting and at-tracting women?
I know there are a lot of guys out there that see this picture as
very black-and-white. There's one camp that thinks that you should
NEVER use anything memorized or pre-rehearsed because that's fake.
The other camp thinks that you must use canned material because you
can apply it in a predictable way.
Here's what I feel...
You DO need pre-rehearsed material to get the hang of how social
interactions work.
BUT only as long as you need them to start generating your own
results.
If you're talking with most people with no problem, and your social
ability is okay in 90% in most situations, but when you get in
front of a woman that you're attracted to you lose your cool, it's
not a matter of what you're saying. It's what you're THINKING. And
that's part of my Alpha Man operating system that I show guys.
You want to shift to natural conversation as quickly as you
possibly can. Anything you've rehearsed or memorized is only a tool
to get you past those occasional moments where you have a
brain-fart, or you blank out because you're in a low-energy state.
Your first focus should be relaxation and calming your mind, then
use something convenient to open the conversation. From there, your
focus is purely on the "vibe" in the interaction. The "vibe" is the
ability to be in-the-moment with a woman and get improvisational
with her. It's not hard, and again, it's a huge topic to discuss
here. I wrote a book on vibing that guys can get from me directly.
Do you have a favorite opening line when you go up to approach women?
I like to let the situation dictate what I say to a woman because
it allows for such a natural flow to the interaction. Being
authentic is the most important way to walk up and start a
conversation. However, there are some things that I will say if my
mind is blank, and that's where having a few good "lines" memorized
can come in handy. (Let me emphasize here that this does not mean
you should rely on canned routines for your conversation. ONLY the
opening should be memorized.)
One of my favorite openers is this: "Hi, I just had a second to
come over and let you know that I think you have a really great
energy about you. I really liked that about you and I thought you
should know. My name is Carlos..."
It's simple and direct, and it NEVER fails to get a positive
response from a woman - if it's delivered with sincerity. Again, I
won't say it if it isn't true.
What type of guy do you feel is most likely to succeed with "dating
dynamics?"
Let's put it this way - if you're getting all the women you need in
your life right now, and your confidence is through the roof every
single day, you probably don't need my programs. But if you feel
there's an area of your life - and not just your dating life! -
that you want to take care of - to find more passion and purpose,
to live what I call the Alpha Lifestyle, then you owe it to
yourself to take a look at the information I share with guys every
week. And especially if you've tried other "seduction" programs and
found that you aren't making the progress you think you should.
Thank you Carlos for your time.
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products, how would they go about doing it
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